So with occasional tiffs, but on the whole rollicking, they drew near the Neverland; for after many moons they did reach it, and what is more, they had been going pretty straight all the time.
The Libra people who read this chapter may claim I haven’t been fair with them, since I’m an Aries myself. (They’re always claiming somebody hasn’t been fair with them.) Are reckless Rams envious of the marvelous tranquility of the Venus-ruled people when their Libra Scales are perfectly balanced, as they sometimes are? No. Rams are not envious of Libran tranquility, even though astrology insists they should be, the two Sun Signs being opposed to one another on the karmic wheel of Life, therefore each lacking what the other possesses. At least, the typical Arian will never openly admit that he or she is envious of Libra, however much the Rams would secretly like to imitate Libra’s lovely calm and tranquil equilibrium. The derivation of the word “equilibrium” is the word “libra.” Or the opposite. Either way, the word and the Sun Sign are linked. Nothing is more important to a Libran than equilibrium. They do so hate to lose it. Nonetheless, they frequently do.
One of the times the Ram secretly envies the Libran is when an Aries person makes a swift Mars-like decision, then is forced to face the inevitable opposition Libra-type emotional trauma that always follows. Did I do right or wrong? Should I have said “yes” or “no”? – after it’s already too late to change anything. Believe me, the Arian indecision after the fact is more painful than the indecision before the fact from which Librans suffer – and certainly not as constructive.
No one can be more charming, intelligent, and optimistic than Librans who have a finn grip on their Scales. They’re simply great at getting groups of people to blend harmoniously and smoothing over tensions (when they’re not personally involved). Aries men and women admire and respect Libra for the Venus-type virtues they themselves lack. But Aries is also Libra’s opposition Sun Sign, and so Libra must admire and respect the Mars-type virtues too. Does that sound like an order?
One of the most noticeable differences between Aries and Libra is that the simplest Aries statement somehow comes out sounding like a demand. Even when Rams ask a question, it often seems more like they’re telling you than asking you. On the other hand, (we must be careful to look at both sides, since we’re dealing with the Scales) – on the other hand, when the Venus-ruled Librans ask a question or make a statement, they manage to charm you right out of your good sense, so you’re left vulnerable and unable to defend yourself.
It doesn’t matter whether the Libran asks, “Why are you so consistently ignorant, dear?” – or remarks, “What you’re doing reveals your complete lack of breeding” – it will evoke a musical tone reminiscent of “The Lost Chord.” Those bunny-tail-soft Venus voices create images of maple syrup being poured into bowls of honey. That’s why Libra can argue for hours with Aries and leave the impression it was the Ram who was being impossibly rude and wrongheaded, in comparison to Libra’s nice, sensible logic. Now what is that, if it isn’t unfair? No wonder Librans make fabulous lawyers, the kind who win all the verbal debates in the courtroom before the jury. If Libran lawyers can twist tough judges around their fingers and woo an indifferent panel of jurors to their side, you can imagine what happens in a battle of wits between Libra and the impulsive, quick-tempered, emotional Ram. No contest.
Perhaps Libra will accuse the Rams of being too hasty to make a sound judgment, of rushing in rashly, with no thought of possible consequences – then sweetly remind them of the beauty of the symbol of the Lady Justice with her Scales balanced in perfect equilibrium.
ARIES: “Yes, but she’s wearing a blindfold, so how can she see right from wrong?”
LIBRA: “The blindfold is only there to protect her from prejudice, dear.”
Then Aries may ask Libra if he (or she) has ever heard the fable about the ass that starved to death because it couldn’t make up its mind which field of clover to eat first? Finally, the Libra man or woman will smile – and once the Ram is under the influence of that dazzling Venus aura, the Aries fire sputters out. It’s difficult for the friendly, open Rams to resist a smile and a kind word, and they’re too naive to suspect Libra of using charm as a weapon against them. Nevertheless, Libra does.
Most of the time in this relationship, the Libran will remain cool and stable. But when the Aries aggressiveness becomes intolerable, it can have the same effect upon this normally gentle person as the accumulation of tension has in the sky – a thunderstorm. Every instinct of Libra recoils from unpleasant confrontation, but when he (or she) feels seriously threatened, a firm, sometimes even impulsive, action will be taken, if only for the purpose of regaining calm. This may seem a little confusing, but you’ll have to apply Libra logic if you want to straighten it out. The best I can do is tell you that, with Libra, the end always justifies the means. On that point, at least, most Rams will agree.
Actually, with the respect always felt for one’s opposite Sun Sign, Rams will, however reluctantly, look up to the Libran judgment and privately wish they possessed it. Aries is aware that Libra is fair and logical, and a clear thinker. The Aries man or woman knows that Libra decisions are nearly always right, but a Ram can get a little jumpy, sitting around watching Libra make them. The word “decision” itself causes most Librans to break out in a rash. It doesn’t bother Aries. A decision has to be made? Great. Toss a coin or a feather – or just do what you instinctively feel is right, then forget it. That’s the Aries motto. Dive right in. (If there’s no water in the pool, Rams scrape their chins in the cement, but they’ll just stick on a Band-Aid, and be on their enthusiastic ways again.) It’s not that Aries doesn’t see the potential value in the nice, safe “middle-road” Libra wears down into a ditch, but a Ram would rather take a chance now and then on the path to the right or the fork to the left – and see what happens. It’s exciting. And that (to look at the other side) is one of the qualities Libra admires in the opposite Sun Sign of Aries. It works both ways.
If you want to test people’s grasp of astrological knowledge, ask them which one of these two Sun Signs has the most violent temper. Before you jump to any hasty conclusions, think. Libra is Air and Aries is Fire. Fire seems more volatile and violent than Air, but Libra is the Cardinal of the three Air Signs – and Cardinal means “leader,” among other things. Aries is also Cardinal, yet you must remember that in Nature air is not as innocent an element as it seems when it becomes aggressive. Have you ever watched a nice, calm, “nonviolent” tornado, cyclone, or hurricane? The quiet steam, composed of moist “air,” that drifts out of the spout of a teakettle can be turned into a force powerful enough to rip up the ground for miles around. Also consider that the chief constituent of air is nitrogen. Nitrogen may be an inert gas, but it’s the principle reason why explosives explode. So – which one has the most dangerous temper, Aries or Libra? You decide. (But don’t ask Libra to decide, if you’re in a hurry for an answer.) I didn’t say which one is the noisiest when angry. I said the most dangerous. If you study this paragraph carefully, you’ll see why people are puzzled when most astrology books, referring to the Venus rulership of Libra, describe all Librans as peaceful, gentle, beautiful, sweet, and calm. They are all those things – half the time. And I suppose we must confess that Aries could profit by trying to imitate some of those positive Libra personality patterns.
These two will at times argue instinctively, but in all fairness, when a conflict between a Libran and a Ram develops, the object of the quarrel to Libra is (usually) to win and achieve eventual peace and justice. The object of most quarrels to Arians is (usually) to win and prove they’re right (even when they’re wrong) to satisfy the considerable Mars ego.
An association between Aries and Libra, influenced by the 7-7 Sun Sign Pattern, is in most cases a fortunate experience for both. But if there’s a negative Sun-Moon aspect between their horoscopes, there can be some fiery and windy periods of tension and conflict. With a harmonious Luminary exchange, Libra will provide a rich atmosphere of freedom of thought and action that will richly nourish the self-confidence of the Rams. The typical Libran will usually treat Aries with gentleness, seldom with tyranny or harsh words – and this is an attitude designed to bring out the very best in the Mars nature, to encourage the finest qualities of the Ram to flower. Instead of trying to force Aries into any particular pattern of behavior, Libra will more often recognize the Arian individuality and respect it.
Under the natural instinct to imitate the opposite Sun Sign, a Ram will frequently discover that a relationship with a Libran friend, relative, business associate, lover, or mate leaves him (or her) with the Mars courage and intense drive intact, but softened into a more tolerant and balanced Venus pattern. Conversely, the Libran man, woman, or child will respond to the Arian friend, relative, business associate, lover, or mate by finding his (or her) indecision gradually turning into a firmer purpose, inspired by the Aries ambition into higher achievement, on both a personal and a public level. As with all 7-7 vibrations, this combination works best when it’s composed of two members of the opposite sex. With a Libran and a Ram of the same sex, a recurring sense of envy, resentment, and competition will often trouble the relationship (unless the Suns, Moons, and Ascendents of each are in friendly aspect in the two nativities).
The Ram will have to try to understand the Libra’s very real need to conserve his or her energy and not waste it unnecessarily, as Aries is often driven to do with Mars energy. It’s Libra’s way of maintaining physical and emotional poise – not laziness. When the Ram sincerely tries to see both sides of any disagreement between them and makes a genuine effort to sympathize with the Libran Venus nature, the Libra man or woman will return the favor with much affection and cheerful encouragement, which will considerably lift the Aries spirit. Librans would much rather be happy and pleasant than cranky and argumentative, if Aries will only play fair with them.
Someone once remarked that Librans are the positive, living proof of reincarnation, because nobody could become that impossible in just one lifetime. Present a Libran with this theory, and the reply will be, “Oh, I’ve heard that about Aries people, but not Libra. Isn’t Libra symbolized by the Scales of Justice and Truth? I don’t see anything “impossible” in trying to be reasonable. On the other hand, Aries is a most unreasonable sign, and I think …. ” A smart Ram, at that point, will offer the Libra man or woman a slice of cheese cake. He (or she) will dimple, all smiles and sweetness again (since Librans love sweets), and the argument will be over. It’s just as well, the Ram couldn’t have won it anyway. Besides, losing an argument with Libra is usually beneficial in the long run, because the Venus judgment is nearly always right. By the time it’s so endlessly weighed and measured and balanced – and discussed and debated – it certainly ought to be.
Love Signs by Linda Goodman