Meet this man while he’s still in his twenties and you’ll probably not really see the goat. You’ll meet a goat in formation, and often he’ll seem like a worldly failure, or wanderer who is unsettled and unsure of his direction. Or he’ll seem to have given up and saddled himself with an unpromising future in some job he dislikes. But stick with him, or meet him later, and you’ll see the goat in true form. And he’ll almost always have a goal he’s working his way towards. And his way of showing his love is generally to share that goal with you, and his expectations in love are that you do everything in your power to help him achieve it.
Capricorn men tend, on the whole, to belong to a more traditional school. Once again, this may not be in evidence in the early part of life, since the goat must learn by hard experience and hard experience means he must try a lot of things in youth that he’ll moralize fiercely against later. But because of his emotional complexity and inhibitions, and because security means a lot to him, sooner or later he’ll usually look for a stable, solid relationship which can constitute a family for him. You’ll also notice that it’s important to many Capricorns to have sons, since the strong patriarchal streak in the sign may love and adore women yet still secretly feels the world should be run by men. Capricorn men aren’t really very good members of the feminist movement like many Aquarian and Libran and Piscean men are. They have a strong sense of what masculine pride and dignity and achievement are about. If you want to get a Capricorn to consider your opinions or wishes, you must learn to be a diplomat. After all, he respects diplomacy. What he doesn’t like is rebellion.
Often you’ll see a real fatherly quality in the Capricorn man. He can be wonderfully protective and supportive, and he’s usually the kind of man who when he says, ‘Don’t worry. I’ll take care of it,’ really does. He can be a pillar of strength and a great source of wisdom and help. The difficulty with this paternal side of his is that you sometimes only get the best face of it when you’re prepared to be the helpless one who needs support. Many Capricorn men dislike capable women; it takes away their need to be the strong figure in the relationship.
Sometimes you see this reversed. The Capricorn man who hasn’t come to terms with his father relationship may behave like an adolescent still rebelling against the father. Then, in a queer way, he looks for those paternal qualities in his women. There is a whole breed of Capricorn male who let their ladies support them and make the financial decisions. They sit back and play the child to the woman-father-lover. It’s a curious phenomenon, and you find it when Capricorn has been badly scarred or hurt by his childhood. But more often the Capricorn man is only too happy to play the strong, supportive, capable role. It’s just hard for him sometimes to share it.
You also have to accept, in relationships with Capricorn, that his career comes first. That means that if he is moved by his firm from London to Stoke-on-Trent, you learn to like Stoke-on-Trent. If it’s his ambitions that might be fulfilled by a move of house, a pruning of the social circle, a change in any of the things which give comfort and pleasure in personal life, then it’s his ambitions which come first. If you have any of your own, you’re expected to adjust. This means that you have two solutions. Either you accept with grace and joy the ancient male-female relationship, which has much to commend it, or, if you’re the more independent sort, you learn to maintain a relationship with Capricorn that isn’t very close. That usually means a sexual relationship without any commitment. He’s not going to commit himself to you unless he knows that you’re prepared to commit yourself to him and his goals. And he may simply run a few casual affairs for a time until he finds the woman who can be the kind of emotional support his enclosed nature needs to blossom.
It’s obvious that this kind of man is the perfect mate for some women, and a disaster for others. It depends on your taste. But you can’t dominate a Capricorn man, except by the most devious methods of emotional blackmail – and he’ll usually spot those and learn to despise you in time for it – and you can’t make yourself more important in his life than his own inner convictions and commitments. And what this sums up is a man who is a pretty good embodiment of the masculine principle in one of its most ancient and traditional forms. Many women prefer more ambivalent men, who are able to lean a little more toward the middle, and have more tolerance for the feminine side of life. Not Capricorn. He’s not in the least ambivalent. He usually knows what he wants – and if it’s you he’ll generally be fairly tenacious about getting you to surrender – and he rarely deviates once he’s decided. You can either love and respect it, or leave it alone. It’s almost impossible to change both himself and the world. And nobody can do it for him.
From the book “Astrology for Lovers,” written by Liz Green.